Why do people like to criticize others, mainly in a negative way?

thanks mate....but you know very well that this angers you inside...people dont like negative criticism... if you just walk away it will mean that i am weak ...and i would be an easy prey... he may start again

You are as weak as you think you are.

Nobody can insult you without you accepting the insult in the first place. If he's there saying bad things about you and you're just standing there taking it all upon yourself and listening to him, well you're not doing yourself any favours.

It is wiser to back out than to argue unnecessarily.

valuable answers...thanks mate...i have many more questions...i am a very sensitive person and what people says about me affects me...i feel that when people criticise me or berate me i feel the need to talk back because when i dont i feel anger inside of me...and it accumulates,and intensifies...

It's normal to feel angry when people are criticising you but it's what you do with this anger that's important. Anger has its highest peak when it's felt in the beginning but it dissipates with time.

If your reaction is to slap him as soon as he's belittling you, you wouldn't want to do the same thing after 60 seconds. You need to be aware of the negative energy that's rising in you and awareness in itself is the cure.

I'm not telling you to control your anger, I'm asking you to become aware of the situation, that's all. Next time you find yourself in this situation, just don't say anything for 60 seconds and let the silence become a moment of awareness.

PS: Please use the reply button under an answer to comment. The answer box is to provide answer to a question and I doubt you want to answer your own question :)

i understand what you are trying to say...and its true anger dissipates...Would it be useful to tell that person right on the spot that what they are saying is irrelevant and that i dont like what they said...just to let them know that there is a limit they should not cross...as the saying state"the way you treat yourself set the standard of how others should treat you"

When that moment happens and you feel the need to say anything after you've refrained for 60 seconds, then say it.

If you're going to count 60 seconds while you're building up more tension inside, then it's not worth it. You need to become aware of your anger or other emotion and let it pass through you.

thank you for your wise thoughts...gudnite